triangle pose, or Trikanasana has been my “worst favorite” pose for as long as I can remember. I have never been able to master the strength, balance, or form- perfectly. my feet are always sliding apart, my legs want to cave in. i’m not breathing. it sucks.
a few months ago, I was doing my best to get through, what I thought was the most excruciating pose in all of bikram yoga when my instructor walked by… all of a sudden I felt her tiny hands on my hips. she made one simple adjustment. she helped to rotate my hips in, which made it possible to balance in the pose (correctly). at once, I could concentrate on using the [right] muscles and the rest of the form fell right into place.
alignment in life is similar to alignment in yoga. sometimes all it takes is one (or two) little adjustments and the balance that is family life, work life, social life, yogi life- it all sort of, falls into place.
tony and I always seem to struggle with the busyness of life. if one of us is home in the evening, the other is not. we have meetings, workout regimines, work, social engagements, showers to take, house work to be finished (which Easton is often reminding me of, the little neat freak)- all which keeps us away from each other and our kids more often than we’d like.
How does one find alignment in the hustle and bustle of these full lives we lead? First, breathe. breath is quite important in yoga but also in life. breathe into your heart- find peace and presence in the moment. go to sleep early. STOP binge watching tv shows. House of Cards will never be a substitute for rest and it certainly won’t help align your heart and mind with living your best life. take a walk with your family. STOP looking at your phone all the time. there is no text, or whatsapp, or email that is worth the distraction and disengagement that “phone-attached-to-hand” creates. play with your kids (and stay engaged). eat real food, mostly plants. move.
Alignment in yoga is not about doing a pose with the greatest depth (or professional yogi-like flexibility and Instagram worthy postures)- it’s about getting the basics right. alignment is about positioning your body in the right way so that as your practice gets stronger you are able to move into a pose using the right muscles- without injuring yourself as you go deeper.
alignment in life is about getting the basics right, too. it’s about knowing how to move through daily needs with balance- so that when the deeper stuff comes, you intuitively know how to move into it. you are instinctively able to get the basics right when life gets hard and STUFF gets piled (high) on your plate.
I do yoga five times a week for an hour/an hour and a half at a time. I do life twenty four hours a day seven days a week, 365 days a year. it’s important to get the life basics in check. it’s important to work on daily alignment because, honestly, no one else is coming over to adjust me. it’s my job to keep my alignment in check.
those life poses are far more complicated, far more intense than any yoga posture i’ll ever do. life… that’s the thing i want to get right- or at the very least aligned.
(post originally written April 2015.)